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Oct
25

What is fulfillment? The dictionary defines it as satisfaction or happiness as the result of fully developing one’s abilities or character. Who doesn’t want to exit this life fulfilled? How do you tap into the essence of your own character? How does one take responsibility for their life and health and happiness?

It’s a matter of acting from inspiration instead of obligation. How do you distinguish the motivation behind your actions? Are you acting from inspiration of your own character or because you feel obligated to do what someone else thinks you should do? Here is a quick test. The feeling of relief accompanies inspiration and is not available when a decision is made out of obligation.

Some say it takes a process of emptying oneself of expectation to be open to inspiration. There has been much written on living in the now and the value of being present to each moment. But how do you achieve that?

Americans have been in search of less struggle and stress in our lives. We have tried desperately to avoid pain and suffering. Maybe, just maybe, if we stop running from pain and stop to feel it, acknowledge it, allow the pain to sweep through us, we will be able to move through it to the other side where possibility is found. Haven’t we all heard that anything we resist persists?

Look around at the healthy people in your lives, especially the elders that have a long history of good health and quick recovery of set backs of good health. They acknowledge illness, fight it, recover and move on. They don’t linger in what if or what was. They embrace what is and what’s next with possibility and hope. Maybe that can only be accomplished by dropping expectation and resistance to what is.

Oct
25

What is fulfillment? The dictionary defines it as satisfaction or happiness as the result of fully developing one’s abilities or character. Who doesn’t want to exit this life fulfilled? How do you tap into the essence of your own character? How does one take responsibility for their life and health and happiness?

It’s a matter of acting from inspiration instead of obligation. How do you distinguish the motivation behind your actions? Are you acting from inspiration of your own character or because you feel obligated to do what someone else thinks you should do? Here is a quick test. The feeling of relief accompanies inspiration and is not available when a decision is made out of obligation.

Some say it takes a process of emptying oneself of expectation to be open to inspiration. There has been much written on living in the now and the value of being present to each moment. But how do you achieve that?

Americans have been in search of less struggle and stress in our lives. We have tried desperately to avoid pain and suffering. Maybe, just maybe, if we stop running from pain and stop to feel it, acknowledge it, allow the pain to sweep through us, we will be able to move through it to the other side where possibility is found. Haven’t we all heard that anything we resist persists?

Look around at the healthy people in your lives, especially the elders that have a long history of good health and quick recovery of set backs of good health. They acknowledge illness, fight it, recover and move on. They don’t linger in what if or what was. They embrace what is and what’s next with possibility and hope. Maybe that can only be accomplished by dropping expectation and resistance to what is.

Oct
23

Oh the joy of acceptance; of our authentic Selves and each other. Can you see what God sees in your neighbor?  Can you see yourself in your neighbor? I love this quote by Mother Teresa.

“Let us be very sincere in our dealings with each other, and have the courage to accept each other as we are. Do not he surprised or become preoccupied at each other’s failures – rather, see and find in each other the good, for each one of us is created in the image of God.”
~Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Peace is here!

Oct
22

Bernie Siegel inspired me to take responsibility for my health years ago and that has made a tremendous difference in my vitality and good health.  I love the quiz on his website and I challenge you to take it for yourself. Its excellent food for thought!! http://www.berniesiegelmd.co/immune_competent_personality.htm

Then check out his new montra.  I adopted it for myself. http://www.berniesiegelmd.co/bernies_mantra.htm

It is so amazing the powerful peace that follows acceptance of what is.  Like R.C. always responded, “Its just what I wanted!”  And he was healthy far past the age of 96.  Helen Hadley got a standing ovation last week at a recital when she was 100 and in excellent health. Her montra, “Be Positive.”

You know, you will always have what you want if you just want what you have.

Oct
19

My favorite comment to my last blog post was from Teri Howard who replied, “The art of aging graceful is the gift of becoming yourself.”  Oh, I love that!

In my book, Vivacious Living in the Wisdom Years, that is one of the common traits of those Elders who were living lives of good health and vitality. They were very comfortable with who they are. Why Jo Barnes even entertains others by sharing the humor of her blunders. Isn’t it fun to watch those blunder trailers after a movie? You know the scenes they cut out because the actors goofed up. The laugh at themselves. When you make a mistake, do you laugh at your authentic self? It feels good! I know I spent many years trying to cover up my mistakes so others wouldn’t notice I wasn’t perfect. :-) When I quit trying to escape from myself and learned to just laugh at myself, I felt a whole lot more freedom to just be me. What a relief!!

How do you discover yourself?  For me Silence has been a gift.  When I stopped looking for the approval of others and turned within (silence) I discovered, not only am I OK, but pretty cool in many aspects.  I would love to hear YOUR comments.  What are some of your practices to get in touch with your authentic Self?

Please post a comment so we can help each other age gracefully and share in Vivacious Living!

Oct
18

I have noticed that when I allow What Is to just reveal Itself it is far more magical than I could have imagined! It takes a great willingness to just allow life to unfold. It takes raw courage to just let go of your anticipated expectations and desires to control the outcome and just trust. It takes a willingness to be curious and watchful.  I have found silence to be very helpful. Remember that old Simon and Garfunkle song, “The Sound of Silence”? There is a space where if we are quiet enough, we allow wisdom to penetrate into our hearts and speak to us.

Just think, what is it causing you stress? Is it your own life, wishing it was some other way? Is it someone you love and care about, wishing life could be different for them? I suggest you try an experiment. Just for one day, give up wishing it was different and embrace the mystery of that situation. Just for one day, allow yourself to be curious about the outcome, trusting that Life may reveal something to you that you couldn’t possibly have imagined.  What have you got to loose? Just allow yourself one day of freedom from worry.  Just one day experience the Precious Present.  Tomorrow you can go back to your old ways of worry and suffering knowing there is another way to look at life.  You will have an interesting contrast to refer back to.

You may even want to journal how effective your worrying about a situation has been for you.  I have found that those times when I can place myself in acceptance of the way things are, I create a space for inspiration to come to me that gives me direction on action steps to take where I can make a difference! Who was it that sang “Silence is Golden”? I guess it was The Tremeloes.

I was recently on a bit of a treacherous walk with a 92 year old friend of mine. My sister and several other people I care deeply about were along also. It was lightly raining and we had strayed way off the beaten path into the woods where recently only wildlife had trod. It was muddy, slippery and rough terrain. I was filled with concern for my friend as she stumbled along, my sister, who is typically frightened about her walking ability, my niece who had a lovely pair of white sneakers on, how much time we had, how we would all get back in one piece, etc. ~ There was a noticable absence of complaints. ~ There was a silence, as we all seemed to trust the mystery of the hour. We worked together, noticing the beauty hidden deep within the woods, holding on to one another. We turned around and retraced our footsteps and safely arrived back where we had started. We were muddy, wet, hot and tired but we all took something away from that experience.  I think it was a Curious Contentment that maybe life is perfect, just the way it is!

We all had a sense of accomplishment. My sister, admitted that she would never have put herself in that predicament knowingly but that she was so glad she was along. She came away with a new belief in herself and her own abilities.  My Elder friend has decided to take her doctor’s advise and walk more to build up her stamina. I encouraged her to rest afterwards, but instead she took a shower and jumped back into Life’s activities, grateful for the lesson she has just learned. Praise God for Sisterhood, for possibility and for willingness to look at something with a new perspective!